And I am glad it happened! You got to get to the end to figure out why I say this.
August 26, 2016, it’s the middle of summer, the heat is palpable in our small living / dining room. The living space is now further overcrowded with paramedics. There’s an ECG machine hooked up to my husband’s chest, monitoring his heart activity. The numbers are changing rapidly but it never dips below 200 bpm as he lays on the sofa.
The discussions pursue, questions are being fired my way as I hold Naomi, my two year old in my arms. The incessant screams of my five year old from under the table is evident above the beeping monitor and rapid talk. Leah had barricaded herself in under the table with the sofa cushions as soon as she heard the ambulance was on its way. She knows the drill. She has seen it before with her Opa as he was wheeled away and then died shortly thereafter. I know it is still fresh in her mind. It was only 7 months ago and so she is on repeat, “No, I don’t want my daddy to die”.
After the priority discussions were done and we await on the emergency doctor, I manage to convince Leah to come out of her fort and get to her room. She bullets out and climbs up into her bed but her screaming never subsides. She is so distraught that when getting a tissue to wipe her snot and tears, I notice the nose bleed as well which then makes her all the more hysterical. My rescuer, iPad lying on the bed. Cartoons on YouTube, perfect distraction so I get the kids watching.
Leah is thankfully no longer screaming out her fears but mine has not stopped and they are belligerently louder (in my head off course). It was similar to my daughters and is also on repeat “Alex you are not dying on me now, not in our home, not now, please Jesus, not now”. Pacing back and forth, the door slightly ajar so I can peek in to see the activity. Those few minutes before the doctor arrived seemed like an eternity, where all my fears morphed into nightmare of ‘what if’ scenarios.
The doctor finally arrived. The meds were administered. His heart rate was stabilized. My husband was now cracking jokes and falling in and out of consciousness as the pain meds kicked in and they wheeled him out the door.
Our apartment was once again quiet, the only evidence remaining was the empty packaging and needles that housed the medication. I cleared it up, looked in on the kids who were still very much in their cartoon world and headed for the refrigerator. Leah’s birthday cake was in there. Alex had driven in from Austria with it yesterday. He had picked it up in Linz on the way into Germany. Two tiny pieces where missing. The girls had eaten it after we sang and Leah blew out her candles. How can everything change so quickly from one day to the next?
I had promised my husband that I was done with my food addiction. I fessed up to my problems a couple of months ago and was ready for healing. Now that monster cake sat on the kitchen counter and I polished the whole thing. I then ate several other things, which completely allude me now as I write this.
I would love to end this post with a victory cry. Sabrina, conquered the problem. But it is not so. I’m sitting with an extra 25 kilos. The amazing thing, I proudly say, “I am glad it happened”. Had I got past it, I would have missed the revelation.
It is more than a year later. In this time Alex has gone on to be with Jesus and my food addiction continues. In this time I have struggled back and forth between victories and defeats. I am pretty beat up at the moment. I am knocked down, flat in the dirt and before deciding on this post, was very much ashamed.
However I say, “I am glad it happened”. A shocking statement but I hold true to it. Yesterday I got to sit down and tell my 6 year old about my struggles with food and why mummy is so fat and unhealthy. I got to talk, to shed some light on my fears and insecurities. I got to be REAL, to stop hiding and actively making decision to show her my imperfections. To let her journey with me through my imperfect progress.
This morning she got up whilst I was doing my workout. She knew now the motivation for what I was attempting. That I am making the change for her and her sister. She sat their under the covers watching the app on my phone spill out the exercises I was to do. I heard stuff like, “Well done mummy, you did it!”, “Keep going, the green bar is almost at the end!”. After the routine was done, with me panting and perspiration running down my face I got hugs and kisses. That’s my victory, mothering my girls and giving them real life lessons to face the hardships that they will no doubt have to face when they get older.
My goal this year is to keep showing up and be seen, imperfect and vulnerable. To stop living within the confines of an ever striving perfect world that is futile but to embrace my journey and finally find freedom in the sky, to SOAR!